8 things smart people never reveal about their personal life at work

8 things smspecies people never reveal about their personal life at work8 things smart people never reveal about their personal life at workAt work, sharing the right aspects of yourself in the right ways is an art form. Disclosures that feel like relationship builders in the moment can wind up as obvious no-nos with hindsight.Trouble is, you cant build a strong professional network if you dont open up to your colleagues. Doing so is tricky, because revealing the wrong things can have a devastating effect on your career.You must know where the line is and be careful not to cross it, because once you share something, there is no going back.TalentSmart has tested mora than a million people and found that the upper echelons of top performance are filled with people who are high in emotional intelligence (90% of top performers, to be exact).Emotional intelligence is the something in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results.Ladders is now on SmartNewsDownload the SmartNews app and add the Ladders channel to read the latest career news and advice wherever you go.Emotionally intelligent people are adept at reading others, and this ability shows them what they should and shouldnt reveal about themselves at work. They know better than to reveal any of the following, because these things will send your career careening in the wrong direction.1. Your political beliefsPeoples political beliefs are too closely tied to their identities to be discussed without incident at work. Disagreeing with someone elses views can quickly junger mann their otherwise strong perception of you. Confronting someones core values is one of the most insulting things you can do.Granted, different people treat politics differently, but asserting your values can alienate some people as quickly as it intrigues others. Even bringing up a hot-button world event without asserting a str ong opinion can lead to conflict. People build their lives around their ideals and beliefs, and giving them your two cents is risky.Be willing to listen to others without inputting anything on your end because all it takes is a disapproving look to start a conflict. Political opinions are so deeply ingrained in people, that challenging their views is more likely to get you judged than to change their mind.2. That you think someone is incompetentThere will always be incompetent people in any workdistributionspolitik, and chances are that everyone knows who they are. If you dont have the power to help them improve or to fire them, then you have nothing to gain by broadcasting their ineptitude.Announcing your colleagues incompetence comes across as an insecure attempt to make you look better. Your callousness will inevitably come back to haunt you in the form of your coworkers negative opinions of you.3. How much money you makeYour parents may love to hear all about how much youre pull ing in each month, but in the workplace, this only breeds negativity. Its impossible to allocate salaries with perfect fairness, and revealing yours gives your coworkers a direct measure of comparison.As soon as everyone knows how much you make, everything you do at work is considered against your income. Its tempting to swap salary figures with a buddy out of curiosity, but the moment you do, youll never see each other the saatkorn way again.4. That you hate your jobThe last thing anyone wants to hear at work is someone complaining about how much they hate their job. Doing so labels you as a negative person, who is not a kollektiv player. This brings down the morale of the group.Bosses are quick to catch on to naysayers who drag down morale, and they know that there are always enthusiastic replacements waiting just around the corner.5. What you do in the bedroomWhether your sex life is out of this world or lacking entirely, this information has no place at work. Such comments will get a chuckle from some people, but it makes most uncomfortable, and even offended. Crossing this line will instantly give you a bad reputation.6. What you think someone else does in the bedroomA good 111% of the people you work with do not want to know that you bet theyre tigers in the sack. Theres no more surefire way to creep someone out than to let them know that thoughts of their love life have entered your brain.Anything from speculating on a colleagues sexual orientation to making a relatively indirect comment like, Oh, to be a newlywed again, plants a permanent seed in the brains of all who hear it that casts you in a negative light.Your thoughts are your own. Think whatever you feel is right just keep it to yourself.7. How wild you used to beYour past can say a lot about you. Just because you did something outlandish or stupid years ago doesnt mean that people will believe youve developed impeccable judgment since then.Some behavior that might qualify as just another day in the typical fraternity (binge drinking, petty theft, drunk driving, abusing farm animals, and so on) shows everyone you work with that, when push comes to shove, you have poor judgment and dont know where to draw the line.Many presidents have been elected in spite of their past indiscretions, but unless you have a team of handlers and PR types protecting and spinning your image, you should keep your unsavory past to yourself.8. That youre job huntingWhen I was a kid, I told my baseball coach I was quitting in two weeks. For the next two weeks, I found myself riding the bench. It got even worse after those two weeks when I decided to stay, and I became the kid who doesnt even want to be here. I was crushed, but it was my own fault I told him my decision before it was certain. The same thing happens when you tell people that youre job hunting. Once you reveal that youre planning to leave, you suddenly become a waste of everyones time. Theres also the chance that your hunt will be uns uccessful, so its best to wait until youve found a job before you tell anyone. Otherwise, you will end up riding the bench.Bringing it all togetherHave you seen any of the above cause trouble for people at work? Are there any others that you would add?Travis Bradberry is the coauthor of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and the cofounder of TalentSmart.This article originally appeared onLinkedIn.8 things smart people never reveal about their personal life at workAt work, sharing the right aspects of yourself in the right ways is an art form. Disclosures that feel like relationship builders in the moment can wind up as obvious no-nos with hindsight.Trouble is, you cant build a strong professional network if you dont open up to your colleagues. Doing so is tricky, because revealing the wrong things can have a devastating effect on your career.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreYou must kno w where the line is and be careful not to cross it, because once you share something, there is no going back.TalentSmart has tested more than a million people and found that the upper echelons of top performance are filled with people who are high in emotional intelligence (90% of top performers, to be exact).Emotional intelligence is the something in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results.Emotionally intelligent people are adept at reading others, and this ability shows them what they should and shouldnt reveal about themselves at work. They know better than to reveal any of the following, because these things will send your career careening in the wrong direction.1. Your political beliefsPeoples political beliefs are too closely tied to their identities to be discussed without incident at work. Disagreeing with someone elses views can quickly alter their otherwi se strong perception of you. Confronting someones core values is one of the most insulting things you can do.Granted, different people treat politics differently, but asserting your values can alienate some people as quickly as it intrigues others. Even bringing up a hot-button world event without asserting a strong opinion can lead to conflict. People build their lives around their ideals and beliefs, and giving them your two cents is risky.Be willing to listen to others without inputting anything on your end because all it takes is a disapproving look to start a conflict. Political opinions are so deeply ingrained in people, that challenging their views is more likely to get you judged than to change their mind.2. That you think someone is incompetentThere will always be incompetent people in any workplace, and chances are that everyone knows who they are. If you dont have the power to help them improve or to fire them, then you have nothing to gain by broadcasting their ineptitud e.Announcing your colleagues incompetence comes across as an insecure attempt to make you look better. Your callousness will inevitably come back to haunt you in the form of your coworkers negative opinions of you.3. How much money you makeYour parents may love to hear all about how much youre pulling in each month, but in the workplace, this only breeds negativity. Its impossible to allocate salaries with perfect fairness, and revealing yours gives your coworkers a direct measure of comparison.As soon as everyone knows how much you make, everything you do at work is considered against your income. Its tempting to swap salary figures with a buddy out of curiosity, but the moment you do, youll never see each other the same way again.4. That you hate your jobThe last thing anyone wants to hear at work is someone complaining about how much they hate their job. Doing so labels you as a negative person, who is not a team player. This brings down the morale of the group.Bosses are quick t o catch on to naysayers who drag down morale, and they know that there are always enthusiastic replacements waiting just around the corner.5. What you do in the bedroomWhether your sex life is out of this world or lacking entirely, this information has no place at work. Such comments will get a chuckle from some people, but it makes most uncomfortable, and even offended. Crossing this line will instantly give you a bad reputation.6. What you think someone else does in the bedroomA good 111% of the people you work with do not want to know that you bet theyre tigers in the sack. Theres no more surefire way to creep someone out than to let them know that thoughts of their love life have entered your brain.Anything from speculating on a colleagues sexual orientation to making a relatively indirect comment like, Oh, to be a newlywed again, plants a permanent seed in the brains of all who hear it that casts you in a negative light.Your thoughts are your own. Think whatever you feel is rig ht just keep it to yourself.7. How wild you used to beYour past can say a lot about you. Just because you did something outlandish or stupid years ago doesnt mean that people will believe youve developed impeccable judgment since then.Some behavior that might qualify as just another day in the typical fraternity (binge drinking, petty theft, drunk driving, abusing farm animals, and so on) shows everyone you work with that, when push comes to shove, you have poor judgment and dont know where to draw the line.Many presidents have been elected in spite of their past indiscretions, but unless you have a team of handlers and PR types protecting and spinning your image, you should keep your unsavory past to yourself.8. That youre job huntingWhen I was a kid, I told my baseball coach I was quitting in two weeks. For the next two weeks, I found myself riding the bench. It got even worse after those two weeks when I decided to stay, and I became the kid who doesnt even want to be here. I was crushed, but it was my own fault I told him my decision before it was certain. The same thing happens when you tell people that youre job hunting. Once you reveal that youre planning to leave, you suddenly become a waste of everyones time. Theres also the chance that your hunt will be unsuccessful, so its best to wait until youve found a job before you tell anyone. Otherwise, you will end up riding the bench.Bringing it all togetherHave you seen any of the above cause trouble for people at work? Are there any others that you would add?Travis Bradberry is the coauthor of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and the cofounder of TalentSmart.This article originally appeared onLinkedIn.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 ha bits of mentally strong people